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Ainura Kalau

Ainura was born in Central Asia, spent over a decade in Malaysia, and studied at an Australian university before settling in São Paulo, where she’s now raising her family. Her life blends cultures and perspectives, something that naturally shapes her writing. When she’s not working, she’s usually trying new recipes while binging true crime shows, soaking up sunny Brazilian days at the park or beach, or crafting something with her hands.

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I have interviewed 45 people who became their parents’ caregivers, and the grief they carried wasn’t only for the parent fading — it was for the child still hoping to finally be taken care of
I have interviewed 30 people who stayed in unhappy marriages for decades, and the reason was rarely as simple as fear, money, or love
Some parents don’t tell their adult children they’re lonely — not because they’re protecting them, but because they haven’t quite found the words for a feeling this ordinary and this unexpected
People who downplay their loneliness aren’t always fine — for some it’s simply that the word feels too large and too self-indulgent for something so ordinary and so constant
People who married in the 1970s and 1980s often didn’t have the language for what they needed — and many of them made it work anyway, in ways their children are still trying to understand