Not everything people share online is a cry for attention — for many, posting may be the closest thing they have to a journal that occasionally writes back
Not everything people share online is a cry for attention — for many, posting may be the closest thing they have to a journal that occasionally writes back
What actually is the difference between writing something in a notebook and writing it in a caption? The words can be identical. The impulse can be identical. The format is different and the audience is different, but the underlying act, choosing language for something you are feeling or noticing and sending it somewhere outside your own head, is closer than the comparison usually gets credit for.
There is a familiar cultural reading of posting online that frames it as performance. The person who shares a photo of their sadness, their quiet morning, their half-formed thought, is assumed to be seeking validation. The assumption has become so embedded that it carries the weight of common sense. But it tends to flatten something more varied than it describes.
Researchers at the University of Turin studied nearly 29,000 Facebook posts across 201 users and found something that complicates the performance frame. In their analysis of what people actually put into posts, they found that “posts and comments shared on SNS can be seen as entries of a traditional diary or journal, in the sense that they may reflect tastes, behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs of the users.” The comparison is not casual. A diary entry and a social media post can be serving the same function: putting into words something that was otherwise just living, unformed, inside the person who wrote it.
The expressive function of sharing
Research into why people share on social media has consistently found that motivation is more layered than the attention-seeking frame suggests. A study examining media sharing behavior found that “social and emotional influences played an important role in media sharing behavior.” That finding is easy to read as confirmation of the performance theory, since emotional sharing can sound like the same thing as seeking an emotional reaction. But social and emotional influences describes something broader. It includes the need to articulate a feeling, to give it enough shape to exist outside the interior of one’s own head.
There is a distinction between posting to be admired and posting to be heard. The former is about an audience. The latter is about not being alone with something. Someone who writes “I have been thinking about this all week” in a caption is not necessarily managing their image. They might be doing what a person does when they write that sentence at the top of a journal page: reaching for a form that makes the thought real enough to look at.
What the reply changes
Where posting parts ways with journaling is the response. A notebook does not write back. A post can. That distinction changes the nature of the act without necessarily negating its expressive function. The person writing in a notebook and the person posting a caption may be doing similar interior work, the work of articulating something they have been carrying around. The person posting is doing it in a space where what they wrote might reach someone, and that someone might recognize it.
For people without easy access to someone to talk to, whether from circumstance, introversion, isolation, or the particular shape of their day, that possibility is not nothing. A post that receives a “same” in the comments has functioned as something closer to connection than performance. It told the person who wrote it that they were not as alone with the thing they were carrying as they had felt.
Not all posting is expressive processing. A significant portion of it is performance. A portion of it is boredom. A portion is self-promotion in one form or another.
But the reflexive reading of everything shared online as a cry for attention misses the quieter portion: people sitting with something they have not entirely worked out, reaching for language, and sending it somewhere that might occasionally, unexpectedly, write back.
Ainura was born in Central Asia, spent over a decade in Malaysia, and studied at an Australian university before settling in São Paulo, where she’s now raising her family. Her life blends cultures and perspectives, something that naturally shapes her writing. When she’s not working, she’s usually trying new recipes while binging true crime shows, soaking up sunny Brazilian days at the park or beach, or crafting something with her hands.
Not everything people share online is a cry for attention — for many, posting may be the closest thing they have to a journal that occasionally writes back
What actually is the difference between writing something in a notebook and writing it in a caption? The words can be identical. The impulse can be identical. The format is different and the audience is different, but the underlying act, choosing language for something you are feeling or noticing and sending it somewhere outside your own head, is closer than the comparison usually gets credit for.
There is a familiar cultural reading of posting online that frames it as performance. The person who shares a photo of their sadness, their quiet morning, their half-formed thought, is assumed to be seeking validation. The assumption has become so embedded that it carries the weight of common sense. But it tends to flatten something more varied than it describes.
Researchers at the University of Turin studied nearly 29,000 Facebook posts across 201 users and found something that complicates the performance frame. In their analysis of what people actually put into posts, they found that “posts and comments shared on SNS can be seen as entries of a traditional diary or journal, in the sense that they may reflect tastes, behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs of the users.” The comparison is not casual. A diary entry and a social media post can be serving the same function: putting into words something that was otherwise just living, unformed, inside the person who wrote it.
The expressive function of sharing
Research into why people share on social media has consistently found that motivation is more layered than the attention-seeking frame suggests. A study examining media sharing behavior found that “social and emotional influences played an important role in media sharing behavior.” That finding is easy to read as confirmation of the performance theory, since emotional sharing can sound like the same thing as seeking an emotional reaction. But social and emotional influences describes something broader. It includes the need to articulate a feeling, to give it enough shape to exist outside the interior of one’s own head.
There is a distinction between posting to be admired and posting to be heard. The former is about an audience. The latter is about not being alone with something. Someone who writes “I have been thinking about this all week” in a caption is not necessarily managing their image. They might be doing what a person does when they write that sentence at the top of a journal page: reaching for a form that makes the thought real enough to look at.
What the reply changes
Where posting parts ways with journaling is the response. A notebook does not write back. A post can. That distinction changes the nature of the act without necessarily negating its expressive function. The person writing in a notebook and the person posting a caption may be doing similar interior work, the work of articulating something they have been carrying around. The person posting is doing it in a space where what they wrote might reach someone, and that someone might recognize it.
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For people without easy access to someone to talk to, whether from circumstance, introversion, isolation, or the particular shape of their day, that possibility is not nothing. A post that receives a “same” in the comments has functioned as something closer to connection than performance. It told the person who wrote it that they were not as alone with the thing they were carrying as they had felt.
Not all posting is expressive processing. A significant portion of it is performance. A portion of it is boredom. A portion is self-promotion in one form or another.
But the reflexive reading of everything shared online as a cry for attention misses the quieter portion: people sitting with something they have not entirely worked out, reaching for language, and sending it somewhere that might occasionally, unexpectedly, write back.
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