If you’ve experienced these 8 things in a relationship, you’re more resilient than you realize

Relationships can be a rollercoaster, can’t they?

The highs are amazing, but those lows—well, they can leave you questioning everything, including your own strength.

But here’s something you might not realize: if you’ve weathered certain storms in a relationship, you’re probably far more resilient than you give yourself credit for.

In fact, the very challenges that made you feel knocked down are likely what built you up into someone stronger, wiser, and more unshakable than before.

So, if you’ve been through a few bumps (or boulders) on the road to love, this one’s for you.

Let’s explore the eight relationship experiences that prove you’re more resilient than you ever imagined.

1) You’ve faced rejection

Rejection stings, doesn’t it? Whether it’s being turned down for a date or a breakup, it’s a blow to our self-esteem.

But here’s the thing: experiencing rejection can actually make you more resilient.

How? Well, it’s simple.

Rejection teaches us that we can survive even when things don’t go our way.

It forces us to confront our fears and insecurities, and often, it pushes us to better ourselves.

Think about it: After a rejection, you’ve probably found yourself taking stock of who you are and what you bring to a relationship.

You’ve likely made changes, big or small, that have ultimately led to personal growth.

So yes, rejection hurts, but take solace in the fact that it also makes you stronger and more resilient in the face of future challenges.

2) You’ve been through a breakup

Breakups are tough, aren’t they?

They feel like the end of the world, like a dark tunnel with no light at the end.

But guess what? You’ve made it through!

And that, my friend, is a testament to your resilience.

I remember my first heartbreak—I thought I’d never laugh again.

But then I remembered a quote by the brilliant Marilyn Monroe, “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

Breakups often force us to rethink our lives and reassess our goals.

They might even lead us to discover aspects of ourselves we never knew existed and, in overcoming the pain, we learn to be resilient.

3) You’ve overcome codependency

Codependency is a tough one.

It’s like being stuck in a trap, where your happiness depends entirely on another person.

Breaking free from this cycle is not easy, but if you’ve done it, you should be proud of your resilience.

In my own experience, overcoming codependency was one of the most challenging yet rewarding journeys I’ve ever embarked on.

It taught me the importance of self-love and setting boundaries.

In fact, this journey inspired me to write my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

In it, I share my own experiences and offer practical steps to help others break free from codependency.

4) You’ve learned to enjoy solitude

Enjoying solitude? In a piece about relationships? Sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it?

But here’s the deal: resilience in relationships is not just about how we cope with others, but also how we cope with ourselves.

Being comfortable in your own company is a sign of emotional maturity and resilience.

It means you don’t rely on others for validation or happiness.

Instead, you’ve cultivated a healthy relationship with yourself.

Now, this isn’t to say that you should shut people out and become a hermit.

Instead, it’s about balancing your need for social connection with your need for personal space.

5) You’ve forgiven someone who hurt you

Forgiveness is a tricky thing.

It’s easy to hold onto anger and resentment, especially when someone has hurt you deeply.

But if you’ve managed to forgive, that’s a clear sign of resilience.

I remember a past relationship where I was deeply hurt.

For a long time, I carried around this baggage of resentment.

But over time, I realized that this resentment was only weighing me down.

So, I chose to forgive—Not because the other person deserved it, but because I deserved peace.

And let me tell you, it was one of the most liberating experiences of my life.

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning the wrong done to you.

It simply means letting go of the anger and bitterness that can poison your heart and soul.

6) You’ve loved again after heartbreak

Let’s be real here: After heartbreak, the thought of loving again can feel downright terrifying.

You’ve been burned once, and the fear of going through that pain again can be paralyzing.

But if you’ve found the courage to open your heart again, to let someone in despite the scars from your past, that’s a testament to your resilience.

It takes real bravery to love again after heartbreak; it means you’ve chosen hope over fear, love over loss.

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And even if this new love doesn’t work out, the fact that you were willing to take that chance speaks volumes about your strength and resilience.

You’re a warrior in the realm of love, and that’s something to be proud of.

7) You’ve accepted your flaws and imperfections

Alright, this is a big one: Accepting our flaws and imperfections can be a daunting task.

We live in a world that often glorifies perfection, making us feel like we need to hide or change our imperfections.

But let me tell you something personal.

I’ve spent a large chunk of my life trying to hide my flaws, only to realize that these very imperfections make me who I am.

Remember the wise words of Leonard Cohen, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

Accepting oneself, flaws and all, means you’re not just surviving in this world – you’re thriving.

And that, my friend, is the epitome of resilience.

8) You’ve learned to let go

Letting go is one of the most difficult things we humans have to do, especially when it comes to relationships.

It could be letting go of a person, a memory, or an expectation – but no matter the circumstance, it’s rarely easy.

The raw and honest truth is, holding on can sometimes cause more harm than good.

It can keep us stuck in the past and prevent us from moving forward.

If you’ve ever had to let go of something or someone significant in your life, you know how gut-wrenchingly hard it can be. But in doing so, you’ve shown an incredible amount of resilience.

Letting go doesn’t mean you’re giving up; it means you’re strong enough to move on.

It’s a brave act of self-love and a true testament to your resilience.

Wrapping up

So there you have it, eight experiences that indicate your resilience in relationships.

If you’ve been through any of these, give yourself a pat on the back.

You’re stronger and more resilient than you realize.

Remember, resilience isn’t about not getting hurt or avoiding pain.

It’s about standing tall despite the storms and coming out stronger on the other side.

If any of these experiences resonate with you, especially overcoming codependency, I invite you to check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

It provides practical advice and personal insights to guide you towards healthier relationships.

Remember, you are resilient, you are strong, and, no matter what challenges you face in love and life, you have the power to overcome them.

Stay strong, friends!

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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