There’s a significant distinction between simply talking and truly communicating.
Talking is just words, but when you’re genuinely communicating, you’re connecting with another person on a deeper level.
As Hack Spirit founder and mindfulness enthusiast Lachlan Brown, I’ve learned that there are certain phrases good people frequently use during conversations.
These phrases reflect their kindness, empathy and sincerity. They demonstrate that they are not just good talkers, but great listeners too.
So, here we go. Let’s dive in and explore what these phrases are.
1) “How are you really feeling?”
Empathy is a trait we universally associate with good people. And what better way to express empathy than to genuinely inquire about someone’s feelings?
The phrase “How are you really feeling?” goes beyond the surface-level small talk. It shows that the person cares and wants to understand your emotional state.
This is not an intrusive question but a gentle probe, inviting the other person to share their feelings if they feel comfortable.
It sets the stage for a deeper, more meaningful conversation and connection. By using this phrase, good people show they are ready to offer comfort, understanding, and support.
2) “I understand where you’re coming from.”
This phrase is a powerful tool in a good person’s conversational arsenal.
It communicates understanding and validation, showing that you’re not only listening but genuinely trying to see things from the other person’s perspective.
Let me share a personal example.
I once had a friend who was going through a tough breakup. She felt lost and confused, and her emotions were all over the place. Instead of offering advice, I simply said, “I understand where you’re coming from.”
I didn’t have all the answers. But by acknowledging her feelings, I was able to provide comfort and support. This phrase helped her feel seen and heard, which is exactly what she needed at that time.
Understanding doesn’t mean agreeing, but it does mean respecting someone’s feelings and perspectives.
3) “I appreciate your perspective.”
Acknowledging someone’s viewpoint, even if it differs from yours, is a sign of respect and open-mindedness.
It’s a phrase that good people often use to create an environment of mutual understanding and acceptance.
When we express appreciation for someone’s perspective, we’re not necessarily agreeing with them. Instead, we’re acknowledging their right to see things differently. This creates a safe space for open dialogue without judgement or criticism.
So the next time you find yourself in a discussion, remember to use this phrase. It not only shows that you’re a good person but also encourages others to share their thoughts freely.
4) “Is there anything I can do to help?”
This phrase signifies a good person’s willingness to extend a helping hand.
It’s not about taking control or solving the problem for them, but offering support in whatever way the other person needs.
Psychologically, this phrase is powerful because it taps into our innate desire to be seen and supported. It shows that the person is not just passively listening, but actively wants to assist.
Research in social psychology shows that offering help can strengthen social bonds and promote a sense of community and connectedness.
But remember, the key here is to respect the other person’s autonomy. It’s about providing support, not imposing solutions.
5) “I don’t know.”
This might seem counter-intuitive. After all, don’t good people always have the answers? Actually, the opposite is often true.
Saying “I don’t know” shows a level of humility and honesty that is characteristic of truly good people.
It shows that they are comfortable admitting when they don’t have all the answers, and it opens up the possibility of learning something new.
This phrase also helps to build trust. It shows that they are not interested in appearing infallible, but are genuine and authentic in their interactions.
By admitting when we don’t know something, we open ourselves up to enlightenment and growth.
6) “I’m sorry.”
Apologizing when you’re in the wrong is a simple yet powerful phrase that good people don’t shy away from saying. It takes a strong person to admit their mistakes and apologize sincerely.
Saying “I’m sorry” means taking responsibility for your actions and showing respect for the other person’s feelings. It’s a step towards mending bridges and fostering healthier relationships.
But remember, an apology should be sincere and followed by actions that show you’re committed to change. It’s not just about saying the words, but about committing to change and making amends for past mistakes.
7) “You’ve made a difference in my life.”
Expressing gratitude and acknowledging the positive impact someone has had on your life is a hallmark of good people.
Once, during a challenging period of my life, a friend stayed by my side, offering support and understanding.
I remember telling them, “You’ve made a difference in my life.” It was a simple sentence, but it conveyed the depth of my gratitude.
This phrase not only makes the other person feel valued and appreciated, but it also reinforces positive behavior and strengthens relationships.
8) “I respect your opinion.”
This is another phrase that good people often use. It’s a statement of understanding, acceptance, and respect for the other person’s viewpoint, even if it differs from their own.
By saying “I respect your opinion,” you’re acknowledging the validity of their perspective and fostering an environment that encourages open and respectful dialogue.
It shows that you value diversity of thought and are not threatened by differing opinions. It’s a phrase that builds bridges, not walls.
In the end: It’s about being genuine
The essence of being a good person is rooted in authenticity.
It’s not about using the right phrases or saying the right things. It’s about genuinely caring for others, being open to different perspectives, and acknowledging our own shortcomings.
These phrases are not a script to be followed, but rather a reflection of a person’s character and values.
Remember, it’s not just about saying these phrases, but truly meaning them. When we genuinely respect, appreciate, and value others, we help create a more understanding and compassionate world.
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