There’s a subtle line between being humble and underestimating yourself.
Often we do certain things, unconsciously, that scream we don’t value ourselves enough. And most of the time, we don’t even realize we’re doing them.
Admitting you lack self-worth isn’t always easy. But becoming aware of these actions can be the first step towards boosting your self-esteem.
Let’s walk through the 10 things you might be doing that unintentionally reveal your lack of self-worth.
Let’s get started.
1) Constantly apologizing
We’ve all met that person who says sorry, even when it’s not their fault. Maybe, you’re that person.
The continuous need to apologize often stems from a deep-seated belief that you’re in the wrong, even when you’re not. It might feel like you’re being polite or considerate, but in reality, it’s a subtle sign of low self-worth.
Apologizing for everything implies that you feel the need to take the blame, even when it’s undeserved. It’s like you’re always ready to put yourself down before others can.
Recognizing this pattern is the first step towards breaking it. Remember, apologizing is about acknowledging wrongs, not belittling yourself.
2) Seeking validation from others
I remember a time when I would constantly seek approval from those around me. “Did I do this right?”, “Do you think this looks good on me?”, “Are you sure I didn’t upset you?”.
Looking back, I realize that these were not just innocent questions. They were my desperate attempts at seeking validation. I constantly needed others to reassure me because I didn’t trust my own judgment or decisions.
If you find yourself doing the same, it’s a sign that you might be undervaluing your own worth. Seeking approval from others means you’re doubting your own abilities and decisions, and that’s not a healthy sign of self-worth.
In the end, the only validation that truly matters is the one coming from within. Trust me, it’s a lesson I’ve had to learn the hard way. The moment you start believing in yourself, you stop needing others to validate your worth.
3) Overworking yourself
Let’s talk about work. We live in a society that often equates busyness with importance and value. The more you work, the more valuable you must be, right? Wrong.
A study published in the Journal of Business and Psychology found that workaholism often correlates with low self-worth. People who lack self-esteem overwork themselves as they believe their value lies in their productivity. They fear that reducing their work hours or taking time off might make them less valuable or replaceable.
It’s essential to understand that your worth is not defined by your productivity. You are valuable, whether you’re working 12-hour days or enjoying a much-needed vacation. You don’t have to burn yourself out to prove your worth.
4) Tolerating mistreatment
How you allow others to treat you speaks volumes about your self-worth. If you’re always letting people walk all over you or tolerating disrespectful behavior, it’s time to take a step back and evaluate why.
When we lack self-worth, we often believe that we don’t deserve better. We might think that such treatment is normal and accept it without question. But here’s the thing, it’s not.
You deserve respect and kindness, just like everyone else. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Standing up for yourself might seem scary, especially if you’re not used to it, but it’s a necessary step in rebuilding your self-esteem. You’re worth it, remember that.
5) Neglecting your needs
When was the last time you took a day off just for yourself? If you can’t remember, this might be a sign of low self-worth.
People who don’t value themselves often disregard their own needs. They put others’ needs before their own, often to the point of self-neglect. Skipping meals, sacrificing sleep, ignoring personal passions – all these are signs of not valuing yourself enough.
Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental needs isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. Your well-being matters. Start prioritizing yourself and see it as a form of self-respect, not selfishness. You deserve to take care of yourself just as much as anyone else does.
6) Struggling to accept compliments
Have you ever brushed off a compliment with a quick “Oh, it’s nothing” or countered it with a self-deprecating remark? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle to accept compliments graciously, and it’s often a sign of low self-worth.
When someone compliments us, and we don’t believe we’re worthy of that praise, we tend to dismiss it. We feel uncomfortable acknowledging our strengths and achievements because we don’t believe we deserve them.
But trust me, you are deserving. You are worthy of praise and recognition. The next time someone gives you a compliment, try to accept it without hesitation or justification. Simply say “Thank you” and let yourself feel good about it. You’ve earned it.
7) Comparing yourself to others
I remember scrolling through social media, seeing people’s perfect lives, and wondering where I went wrong. It seemed like everyone was achieving so much while I was just stuck.
This comparison game is a dangerous trap. It’s like a toxic spiral that only leads to self-doubt and dissatisfaction. The more you compare yourself to others, the more inadequate you feel.
But here’s the truth I had to learn – everyone’s journey is different. You’re not behind or ahead; you’re just on your path. And that’s okay. You don’t have to measure your worth based on someone else’s achievements or life. You are enough, just the way you are.
8) Being overly generous
Generosity is a wonderful trait, but did you know it could also indicate a lack of self-worth?
People who constantly give to others, often at their own expense, might be trying to ‘buy’ love, acceptance, or approval. They may believe that they need to offer something in return to be liked or valued.
Interestingly, this generosity often extends beyond material things. It could be your time, effort, or even emotional support.
It’s okay to set boundaries. You don’t have to give endlessly to be a good person or to be appreciated. Genuine relationships are not transactional; you’re valued for who you are, not what you can offer.
9) Downplaying accomplishments
You’ve worked hard, achieved something great, but when it comes to sharing your success, you play it down as if it’s no big deal. Sound familiar?
This habit of downplaying accomplishments is common among people who struggle with self-worth. You might think you’re being modest, but in fact, you’re undermining your own efforts and abilities.
It’s okay to be proud of your achievements. They are a testament to your hard work, talent, and dedication. Celebrate them! And remember, acknowledging your success doesn’t make you arrogant; it shows that you recognize and value your own abilities.
10) Ignoring your intuition
Your intuition is your inner guide. It’s that gut feeling that nudges you when something is off or encourages you when something feels right. But when you lack self-worth, you might find yourself ignoring this powerful instinct.
Ignoring your intuition means you’re not trusting yourself. You’re doubting your judgment, your feelings, and ultimately, your worth.
Trust your intuition. It’s a reflection of who you are. And remember, you know yourself better than anyone else does. Trusting in yourself is a powerful affirmation of self-worth. Don’t underestimate it.
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