Hey there! Tina Fey here—no, not the comedian, but the introverted writer you might’ve heard about through my columns at Blog Herald. I’ve spent years studying psychology, reading every self-improvement book under the sun, and occasionally running (quietly) away from big social events.
If you’re an introvert like me, you’ll totally get these seven delightfully odd habits we share. And if you’re not, well… let’s just say you’ll finally understand why your introverted friend does that weird thing with the Uber app at parties.
Let’s dive right in.
1. Mastering the Art of the Strategic Disappearing Act
You might call it “ghosting,” “the Irish exit,” or “that thing where you leave without saying goodbye.”
Introverts think of it as self-preservation.
During social events, we keep an eye on our energy meter. The second it dips below half, we start plotting our smooth exit. Carl Jung, who popularized introversion and extraversion in modern psychology, said, “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
We take that “looks inside” part quite literally. When we feel our internal battery nearing 0%, we slip away to recharge—no offense meant. I’ve done it at my own birthdays (don’t judge me).
2. Overthinking Conversations Like We’re Solving World Hunger
One of the most “fun” things about being an introvert is replaying every conversation in our heads—sometimes for days.
“Oh no, why did I laugh so weirdly at Greg’s joke? Does Greg think I’m a freak now?”
We dwell on all the little things most people forget in five minutes. But hey, we can also analyze people’s feelings and pick up subtle cues no one else notices.
It’s a superpower… until it’s 3 a.m. and we’re still wide awake thinking about that weird pause in yesterday’s Zoom call.
3. Taking ‘Me Time’ to Epic Levels of Zen
We love being alone—thriving in that blissful state of solitude like it’s a mini vacation.
Susan Cain, author of Quiet, said there’s “zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” So, we introverts often prefer to develop our best ideas in the stillness of a quiet room.
I can testify to this: Some of my best article ideas come when I’m lying on my couch—snug in my pajamas with my cat purring next to me—just letting the silence work its magic.
4. Dodging Phone Calls as If They’re Landmines
Picture this: you’re binge-watching your favorite Netflix series, snuggled under a comfy blanket, and your phone rings.
No.
We freeze, we stare, and we let it go to voicemail (or politely text, “What’s up?”)
It’s not that we hate people. It’s just that phone calls feel like a surprise pop quiz—out of the blue, with no time to mentally prepare. It’s far easier to type out a thoughtful reply than to stammer through small talk on the spot.
5. Developing In-Depth Relationships with Our Imaginations
Introverts often have a rich inner world. We conjure vivid daydreams, rehearse conversations in our heads, and create entire universes while waiting in line at the grocery store.
Some of us write novels (guilty as charged). Others lose themselves in art or music. Think of it like a daily vacation from reality.
We might look spaced out, but trust me, we’re probably hatching the next big screenplay (or analyzing that weird pause from the Zoom call again).
6. Strategically Planning Social Hangouts to Prevent Burnout
If you’ve ever wondered why your introverted buddy only meets up once a month, here’s the secret: Socializing is like running a mental marathon.
We love good company—truly, we do—but we also know ourselves. We need that alone time to “rest and recover” from group chatter, bright lights, or overly enthusiastic hugging.
In my case, I schedule friend dates with military precision. If I’ve got a brunch on Saturday, I’ll keep Sunday absolutely plan-free for hardcore introvert recovery.
7. Chatting Endlessly Online, Quiet IRL
Last but not least, introverts can be super talkative… just not always in person.
Online? We can write 2,000 words on the meaning of life. In a busy coffee shop? We might cling to our cappuccino like it’s a lifeline.
This is partly because writing lets us process our thoughts at our own pace—no awkward silences or pressure to speak immediately. It’s like the difference between dancing alone in your bedroom and busting a move in front of a live audience.
I’ve found some of my best friends through forums, email pen pal situations, and good ol’ social media messaging. It’s all about finding that sweet spot where we can comfortably express our inner monologue.
Conclusion
So, there you have it—seven quirks that make introverts introverts.
If you related to at least one (or all seven), just know you’re in good company. Embrace your glorious “weirdness.” There’s beauty in solitude, depth in quiet reflection, and genuine strength in the ability to find fulfillment within yourself.
And if any extrovert friend of yours is scratching their head right now, you can just slide them this article. Then slowly fade into the background before the “so, do you want to hang out on Friday?” question pops up.
Stay awesome and introverted (or at least introvert-friendly).
