With social media tools we have the ability to instantly become a citizen of the world. We probably have more interactions in a single day than many people from our grandparents times met in their whole life. This has both advantages and negatives, and navigating these will have a profound impact on your happiness and your success.
Fact is some people make you feel better, lift you up, inform and entertain, while others seem to be on a mission to depress, annoy, enrage. Sorting the edifying from the toxic is a habit to get into early and often!
Build a Positive Network
- Read and follow people who inspire or motivate you
- Surround yourself with positive influences rather than people who bring you down
- Do not get drawn into protracted debates or arguments
- Block people who routinely aggravate you
- Avoid scenarios where you get drawn into negativity
- Seek out people who are succeeding at what you want to do and observe how they behave and think
- Find the learning opportunity in every interaction
Being a Good Networker
This isn’t just about having a positive network, it is also important to be a good member of other people’s networks.
One factor to avoid is the idea that people in your network should somehow be “useful”. If you are tempted to think “what have you done for me lately” then shake that off right now. Nobody likes a user, and most of us have a well tuned user-radar. Instead of what have they done for you, what have you done for them? Why would someone keep your details in their address book?
If you value your contacts, and they match the positive attributes mentioned above, with none of the negatives, are they not work keeping in touch with and doing the odd favor for?
How do you grow and maintain a good group of friends and contacts? Please share in the comments …